7 things every wife should know as told by Viviene Bigornia
Before I start talking about the book, 7 things every wife should know, let me ask you this: What would you do if your husband tells you that he plans to quit his job to pursue a career with unstable income?
Here’s another one, what if your husband turns out to have habits you don’ t like that you only find out after you’re married? For example, he leaves his dirty shirts on the bed or picks food off your plate.
What if your parents want you to move in with them? It seems practical since you don’t have to pay for exorbitant rent and other bills, right?
Here’s the thing, if all you expected in marriage was romance, and perhaps a bit of a teleserye you and me against the world scenario once you tie the knot, I can guarantee you, you’ll be disappointed.
Wives, arm yourselves!
Marriage is not easy. Being a wife is not easy. But marriage is worth fighting for and your spouse is worth fighting for.
What’s the best thing to do? Equip yourself. It’s never too late!
Viviene Bigornia’s 7 things every wife should know is a great tool for training and equipping for married women. It also provides a good orientation for single women who plan to get married in the future.
It’s very easy to read and very much relatable. Viviene shares some of her stories in the chapters, as well as stories of real wives, women she’s close to and whose marriages she continues to witness.
What I’m trying to say here is that Viviene talks about things that can be done and has been done. Marriage is definitely not always fun and exciting, but when times get rough, know that there have been women who had gone down the same path and have overcome.
You’ve lost that lovin’ feeling
Jay and I aren’t a perfect couple, and a great deal of why we’re still together after all these years is because of his faith and patience.
You see, just as Viviene points out in the book, if we’re simply looking at each other’s capabilities, we’ll definitely disappoint and infuriate each other.
Having Jesus at the center of our relationship makes a lot of difference.
Why? Because even when there doesn’t seem to be any love left, there is Jesus. He’s more than enough for us to forgive each other and he’s more than enough for us to shift from the all-too-common perspective of love as an emotion, to love in action.
In love, there is no try, there is only do.
Going back to the book
There are places in between wherein Viviene suggests bible verses and provides questions for personal reflection.
You can use it as a personal journal or you and other wives can read together like a book club and meet regularly to share your thoughts and discuss the points in the book. It’s a good way to build a strong, solid support group among other wives.
Where to buy
You have two options when you buy the book. Paperback copies are at Php 395 which you can order directly from Viviene via her blog, The journey of a woman. The Ebook in PDF version is also available for you at Php 110.
For non-Philippine residents, you can get your copy from Amazon. Here’s the link: 7 Things Every Wife Should Know: For Newly Weds and Almost Weds
Sure I’ve come up with a few recipes of my own, Gordon Ramsay, Elliott Graham and Joe Bastianich are the constant voices in my head (hashtag schizoprenia, haha). Seriously though, I just love to prepare food, with no false ambitions.
And because it’s the love month! Viviene is offering a 15% DISCOUNT for my readers. Send an email to [email protected] and be sure to write this on the subject line: 15%OFF.
The book is basically Marriage 101. If you and your spouse are going through deeper issues, the book may still help, but it is best that the two of you together will seek the counsel of a pastor or an elder in your church.
That said, the book is based on biblical truths which make for a good foundation for every marriage. So go ahead, click on the links above and grab yourself a copy.
Disclaimer: I have received a free Ebook copy of 7 things every wife should know, but all the opinions and views I’ve shared here are purely my own.
40 Comments
Lily
Interesting! I’m curious to learn more about the messages in this book. Thanks for sharing.
May De Jesus-Palacpac
The book has 7 points and touches on topics on sexual intimacy, independence, biblical submission versus worldly submission, etc. 🙂 It’s a good book to have. 🙂
Janice
“In love, there is no try, there is only do.” I love this. It’s so true. Marriage is definitely not a walk in the park. It takes a LOT of work. Wives definitely need some inspiration and encouragement no matter how long they’ve been married and it looks like this book can provide it.
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Yes, it does bring you back to the foundations of marriage and corrects misconceptions. 🙂
Nicole Paler
I have the e-book version of this and I love how great it is. The very point that this book states is that reality of the situation- love is not enough for marriage, is so true. There’s a whole lot of other things that are needed to make it work, and only you and your partner CAN make it work. 😀 It’s like doing the 40 days purpose of life book but in “how to be a better wife” form. 😀
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Yes, the purpose driven life by Rick Warren was a breakthrough book, for sure. And this does remind me of that, as well.
Viviene
Jesus is the main reason Hubby and I are still happily together. There are ups and downs but marriage is definitely worth it =D
Thanks May for this beautiful review!
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Thank you for my copy. I’m going to discuss it with the married women in my bible study group. 🙂
Aci
I must read this 🙂 cause I’m losing my grip 😛
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Hang in there, mommy! 🙂
Franc Ramon
I think this would be helpful when marriage hit a rough spot and it always does so it’s important to know what’s worth fighting for.
May De Jesus-Palacpac
I agree, every marriage hits a rough spot. It’s important that we are grounded and that we know that Jesus died for the person you married, too. If he thinks he/she is worth dying for, then he/she must be worth fighting for. 🙂
Blessing
A must read for all married women. Detailed and illustrative and I am glad to learn these tips from you.
Thanks for sharing.
May De Jesus-Palacpac
You’re welcome. 🙂
Alissa
I have seen this book and I think it’s great! Now I have an idea what to give to my cousin as a present for her birthday.
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Yes, it is definitely a good gift to give, especially this love month. 🙂
Jojo Vito
very True: “marriage is worth fighting for and your spouse is worth fighting for”. I think I’lll be buying this book to give as a gift 🙂
May De Jesus-Palacpac
That’s great, Jojo. 🙂
lique
Thanks for sharing this. I’ve been meaning to read books again this year as part of my resolution. Sounds like a great book
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Yes, it is. 🙂
Ayi
First of all, congrats since you’re in dot com na! 🙂 Going back to the book, I really like this since it made me change my perspective about being a wife. I thought I was doing great na yun pala there are some things I still have to work on – and this book made me realize that.
Great insights mommy 🙂
Amy
great post. I will have to check out this book. Is it similar to a devotion? That’s what my husband and I are looking for!
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Hi Amy. It’s not a couple’s book. It’s more for the wives. You can use it as a devotional , yes, but it only has 7 chapters. Still a good book to have, though. 🙂
Jennifer
Thanks for this great reading idea! Going to have to grab a copy!
Thanks, Jennifer
May De Jesus-Palacpac
That’s great, Jennifer! 🙂
Hank Klinger
I would love to get this for my girl, but I don’t know what sort or message that would send. Cheers!
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Haha! You might as well include a ring in it. 🙂
sarah tirona
support/discussion group is really a good idea.
Nilyn Matugas
Thank you for sharing this. I need this book.
Jen Santos
This is an interesting book. Thanks for sharing this! Sometimes I wonder what goes on during book club meetings and discussion groups. I like to read but I haven’t joined a book club or even attended a discussion group. I wonder what it’s like.
Que Gavan
Im suppose to get this ebook but totally forgot all about it since we got the kindle broken.
Thabks for sharing about your thoughts on this May.
Fajar Harpha
I agree, marriage is worth fighting for. Wife is a sparring partner for the husband. As my experience, I often do not understand what is really desired by the wife in addition to money and love…
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Well there’s security, respect, time and attention and affirmation. 🙂
Maan
I was wondering if this book was Bible-based since it wasn’t clear to me in the other review that I read. I’m super glad to find out that it is! I think I’m going to buy a copy. Does the discount also apply to digital copies?
May De Jesus-Palacpac
Hi Maan! Yes, the PDF copy which is available for Philippine residents is already 50% lower than the Amazon copy (which is only available for areas outside the Philippines). 🙂
Yvonne Bertoldo
This looks like a good read. 🙂 Interesting ^^
Ten
Gonna give this to every wife of my friend for Christmas haha
Peachy
I just sent her an email and is looking forward to hear from the author. This sounds like a very nice book and I’m really excited to read more of it. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂
Millie
I love this book… This would probably help our relationship. We have this book entitled: If I would like to have a great, I would…. and so far, nakakatulong naman.;)
Pingback: